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I have confessed to a big lie of omission about my past, and my husband wants a divorce. Should I try to save my marriage, or should I give him a divorce?

I am eight, and I am having problems because of my Mom and Dad's divorce.

I have decided to pursue a divorce. My husband now refuses to spend any time with our children, saying that I should have realized what this meant when I made my choice. What should I do?

Do you know of any groups/support groups that I could join to make friends while I am separated?

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I'm not sure if this would be considered a legal question or not. I am trying to file for child support, but because I live in another country, it is difficult to do this. Do I need to hire an attorney to file for child support?

Should someone notify their ex-spouse of plans to remarry, or should the ex-spouse learn of those plans through the grapevine instead?

How does no-fault divorce work? We were married for 30 years, and we've been separated for six years, amicably. My ex wants to file for no-fault divorce, but will that mean no more support?

My ex wants us to see each other -- not as husband and wife but more like boyfriend and girlfriend. He shows me more attention and I probably show him more, too. But I don't want to be stupid about how he feels about me: if he truly loved me, wouldn't he want to save our marriage?

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Friends of ours are getting a divorce. My husband says it's because she's a terrible housekeeper: the house and the kids are always dirty and untidy, she never cooks, and she stays in sweats all day. Do men need a clean home etc. to be happy? And what can we do to help them?

My husband is asking me for an uncontested divorce. He doesn't want me to get a lawyer, but I'm not sure the property division he's suggesting is fair...

I have been separated from my husband for almost three months, and I've heard that my husband would not be responsible for any debts I incur while we're separated. Is this true?

I recently caught my husband cheating on me with his boss. What should I do?

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I just can't seem to stop loving my ex-wife. I feel like I need to move on, but keep holding out hope that one day we may try again. Any advice?

My wife and I are in the middle of a divorce. I would like 50/50 physical custody of our three children as I believe that our children need two parents (and not one parent and one visitor). However, my wife won't agree. Can you suggest some authoritative'web and print resources that discuss 50/50 custody?

My husband used his 401K money to use as a down payment on our home and to buy new furniture. He claims I won't get any of the equity because we used his retirement fund in the beginning, and he also says I will be responsible for paying the back taxes.

How is alimony calculated?

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I am in a relationship with a married man. His marriage was arranged by his father, and he agreed to it only under sufferance. We live together and I am wondering if you could give me advice on arranged marriage separation. Is it different?

I am 34 years old and I want to divorce my husband. He does not want the divorce and is dedicated to making everything as difficult as possible. Last year, I was diagnosed with cancer. I'm currently covered under my husband's insurance, and I know he will do everything in his power to make sure I'm not covered with his insurance anymore. I can't afford my own insurance, plus I now have a preexisting condition. What can I do?

My last child turns 18 and is graduating from highschool this spring; according to my divorce agreement, my child support to my ex-wife ends then.

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I have been separated for over two years, and I have primary custody of my two kids.

I have been married for 15 years, and we have an eight-year-old son. Several years ago, my wife betrayed me and said she wanted a divorce.

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My partner's soon to be ex-wife wants to have a joint divorce party where they announce or celebrate the divorce.

I started dating my girlfriend about 10 months ago, and we got engaged in December. There is some friction in our relationship because my ex and I need to communicate with regards to our five-year-old son.

My wife and I want to divorce each other in as kind and easy of a way as possible.

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My wife and I have totally different interests. How can we stay together and still satisfy our needs for personal satisfaction?

What is your view about a divorced man not cutting the cord from his ex wife?

Even though they've been divorced for many years now, my husband's first ex-wife continues to socialize with his two sisters. I think she should stop coming to family get-togethers at their homes.

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I am trying to obtain information about sharing children's possessions.

I am 25 years old and my wife is 45. We don't have much in common; should I leave her and find a girl my own age?


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